Somewhere in our culture, an idea formed. It’s the idea that there is a perfect size out there and every girl needs to fit that perfect size. We compare and contrast ourselves with other girls all our lives. It doesn’t stop with age. The older we get, the more money we’re able to pay to get the look we want.
The battle is inside of each of us. As women, our hearts and identity is so wrapped up in the things we believe about ourselves. And often it’s the media, the culture that tells us what to believe. If we can fit the perfect size, have the hair and the clothes that make us feel pretty, we believe we are beautiful. But the moment one of those things doesn’t work, it’s like a set of dominoes lined up and knocked down in a moment.
What are your core beliefs about yourself? Write them down. Examine where you got that belief from, and if it is a cultural idea or a biblical idea. The Bible is a foundation for the truth of who we are. I don’t get any of my beliefs from another source than the Bible.
The voices in our society are quick to label us imperfect. For the girls in middle or high school, the competition is a daily battle. And it can be devastating battle to lose, when rumors and gossip spread like fire, and friendships betray. It seems hopeless when each school day brings another attack. But what does God say? Check out Psalm 139:14-16 to start with:
God created you as beautiful. A picture of His glory. Though the world may not always applaud us, we aren’t looking for approval there anyway. The game they want us to play will just cause us to lose in the end. No matter your size or your shape, we are stamped with approval from God, so we don’t need approval from other people.
You are the perfect size! Don’t believe the lies you hear, and if that takes putting down some of your magazines and picking up the Bible, do it. A confident woman is someone who knows her worth is not in what she owns, or how she fits a certain image. She smiles on the days ahead and keeps her eyes on Jesus, letting all the other voices disappear.