Why Does it Matter Who I Date? Blog by Elissa

There are over 7 billion people in the world today. If we lined them up around the earth, there would be about 50,000 lines of people circling the globe. That’s a lot of people. With all that choice of who to date or marry, there has to be some meaning to the search. Otherwise, you may end up with an elderly sheep herdsman from Tibet. Nothing against herdsman or Tibet, but you know what I mean. You can’t be random with this one.

So, you’ve surrounded yourself with a group people on a certain corner of this Earth and you single out a few who could be good candidates to date. (Probably not any herdsmen in that group.) We’ve been given the idea by the culture we live in that it really doesn’t matter who we end up dating, as long as he/she makes us happy. Similar interests and a good disposition help. This we know. But, there is even more to it than that.

I want to propose another question to you. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? It’s likely the person you date will put you on a path in some direction. Determine the direction you want to head before you land a dating relationship. If you reverse that order, letting the relationship determine your direction, things will become confusing. A lot of us talk about the “calling” God has placed on each person’s life. I think it’s a must that we ask Him what your calling is and surrender to His path before you begin to date. Discovering your calling says a lot about who God has made you to be. Go with that.

Why does it matter if you date a Christian or a non-believing individual? This is where the conversation gets good. If you are a Christian, how will a dating relationship or marriage to a non-believer ever be deep enough if you can’t talk about the God you love, share inspiration from the Word, hear the guide of the Spirit and pray together? All of these things are a daily part of a fulfilled Christian life and a strong marriage. Don’t take my opinion – just ask anyone you admire with a happy, long marriage.

Most of all, who you pick as a date matters because God cares about it. My greatest advice is to go to Him with your questions, thoughts and feelings. He has a plan for your life and trusting Him with every detail is the only way to follow His road. “Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.” Proverbs 3:5 MSG

Got questions or feedback about dating and relationships? Leave a comment below or write me – Team @ sonflowerz.com.


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